Our ultimate fear, which locks us in to feeling like a very struggling 'me' individual, is actually our fear of separation. That is something we learn when we are very, very small; we come into the world as one, everything is one. And we learn about being separate and then we really worry that we could lose that connection to our parents and we have mini-abandonment experiences; we suddenly become aware that something isn't there - your mother isn't right there and we get fearful that separation does occur.

So if you take some really deep breaths, right through the whole body, through the head and circulating around, soothing your energy field totally, and you allow yourself to just open deeply to that energy circulating through you and around you and everywhere and check to see if you can even find a boundary. If you really close your eyes and feel this experience check to see if you can even find a boundary between where you think you are and everything else.  If you simply allow that sensation in this experience of awareness and there is no labelling, there is nothing required and yet life occurs, sounds occur, movements occurring in the world around you and in the experience around you. You simply allow all of that without any sense of labelling it or looking at it or anything - just having the experience of being present. More and more you recognize that it's all happening as one. Sensations appear as something but then they dissolve. Sounds come and then they go.  Activities seem to be happening, but if you don't picture them, it just comes and goes, whatever that is.  There is always everything moving and shifting and it's all in the backdrop of this oneness awareness and there is really no boundary between these sensations and the actual awareness of them all - it's all the same. So when suddenly we have a fear of separation, where we are at risk of losing things, of being out of control and we suddenly think we have to do something to grasp onto life and to survive, isn't that just another sensation? It gets all of our focus and takes us out of the appreciation that it is all happening by itself - it is all one. The very fear that I am separate and I have something to lose and I have to do something, the fear of separation, brings us to that focus of this whole world and life that actually is an experience of separation!

And that's fine.

Again, just breathe and notice, it is really just another sensation? Just like a dog barking, the phone ringing, a voice, a footstep; we don’t' need to label any of it - we do - but we don't need to label and make it into anything to have the direct experience that life is all one.  Whether we are focused on those sensations or whether we are focused on the awareness of the sensations, and if we really focus on sensations and we tighten up and label and have a whole mental experience of pictures and memories - that's ok, it's just an experience, it is not really separate.  It hasn't really separated anything from the one energy. It is still all one.

Notice you can come right back down to breathing and noticing the very core sensations that have given rise to that experience. So could you let go of wanting to be so attached to that as an identity where you struggle and try to make something of these sensations to try to "fix" the separation "ideas", actually gives you separation - you are having the experience of being separate and needing to do something?

Of course it's just an experience, its fine!  You are NEVER separate!  Could you just welcome that there are no boundaries and that everything is all being taken care of all by itself, and you could rest in the background, in the awareness that you are just watching to see what that body is going to do today?

Love, Karyn

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What is Releasing or Letting Go?

The approach to releasing is relatively simple and includes mental tools and techniques for the following steps:

1. Identifying areas that require attention

2. Recognizing feelings associated with the issue

3. Accepting, allowing or welcoming the feelings

4. Experiencing the emotions directly, separate from thinking or analysis of the problem

5. Letting go (or releasing)

6. Re-assessing the issues, including insights, understandings, new perspectives

The simplicity and natural process of releasing or letting go allows the user to incorporate and integrate the approach after the initial training, providing an on-going template for continued self-improvement. This is the primary goal.

In the process, you may identify issues that you want to address more deeply, for brief periods with the assistance of coaching or psychotherapy.   Visit our upcoming events page for more information on our courses. 

“The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” - Albert Einstein

Feelings Are Not You!

I want to share something as a way of looking at the ego vs. being present and just being here and available to whatever is going on.

I'm noticing that people seem to do is "avoid" - they seem to avoid certain things that will trigger and cause unwanted feelings. We seem to be in a constant place of "I'll avoid that so I won't feel this." And if the problem with this - these more vulnerable and anxious feelings - is that we actually over-identify with them. We are always trying to push them away, and we push them away by trying to get rid of anything, any person, or any event that seems to be bringing those feelings forward.

I invite you to think of a person or a situation you are avoiding or resisting, don’t want to get involved in.  And just for a moment can you just allow that feeling of pushing away and avoiding and resisting, can you actually feel that as a feeling as  you sit here just doing this little exercise, sitting wherever you are and it is perfectly fine and this is really just a memory.  Could you allow that feeling of avoiding, resisting and ‘I don’t even want to go there?’

And just for now, do you think you could let that go?  Could you let it be here, could you let it go?  It’s like taking your hands off completely.  And you could be a little more welcoming of anything else that might be there?

If it is leaving you feeling a little bit more anxious, or feeling as if you are out of control, just notice nothing’s happened, that it is just a feeling.

Could you welcome that feeling?

Could you allow whatever is there, any feeling of guilt or feeling out of control, or just a nausea feeling, or uncomfortable feeling (you don’t have to label it)?  If there is anything there, in this moment could you just allow it to be here and relax, could you breathe?

Could you be more connected here now with the energy that it always present, peaceful and flowing?

Could you be connected to that while you notice the agitating energy? – So, here’s the ego agitating and it wants to start thinking and doing things, thinking about things or pushing away.

Could you just stop and breathe and be more interested in what is really here now and less interested in focusing so heavily or intensely or resisting these other things? They are merely sensations, and could you let them go?  Could you rest as the feelings flow in and out?

Feelings are not you, it is very important to notice that. 

The journey is to stop resisting your feelings, allowing them to be here, and then let them go! 

Love, Karyn

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In this moment, we are SAFE!

Why do we perceive attack from each other?  This phenomenon is so clear when you breathe and get centered that what is really causing the problem is that we feel threatened all the time. The mind is making all kinds of associations as you walk through your day and it is reminding you that "that's a threat and that's a threat!" all from past experiences that you are not even aware of, and as that threat comes up you perceive immediately the need to have to defend yourself or what looks like attacking back.

This gets particularly severe when we are up in the ‘PRIDE’ energy and we really think we are ‘right’, so we sound a certain way and we come across with a certain voice and we are not even necessarily meaning anything by it or attacking, but because of the "threat" inside, we are in an energy that is really pushing at other people. Or on the other side of that, you perceive that attack, you feel controlled, you feel that someone is coming at you with that energy and immediately another perception of threat occurs; the mind in that person saying "oh, that's an attack, that's a problem, that's a threat" - up comes that threatening energy and, again, we are in that same position - that other person is trying to attack back or defend.  A lot of the time we are just defending ourselves, defending ourselves, defending ourselves against what we perceive to be a threatening situation.

So when we sit back for a moment and look at all the ways you feel controlled and so-called attacked; all the ways in our day where people are talking to us, not talking to us, how they talk to us, what they do and can seem to attack us.  How having money, not having money, what I'm doing with my money - can all seem threatening.  All kinds of things can go on during the day - situations, people; events that appear to be attacking or controlling us.

Release

In this moment, can you welcome that sense of feeling controlled and what it feels like to feel threatened and controlled; trapped at the worst state, could be very mild - but can you welcome that and how it feels when we have the perception that suddenly something is attacking and we are threatened and we immediately clench up?

Can you welcome that clenched up energy that goes on inside and you immediately put up a protective guard that wants to go another way - can you feel that energy that wants to control, wants to defend and maybe it wants to be right - just welcome that, as best you can?

And as you welcome those energies of feeling controlled and then wanting control, can you open to the possibility they are just instantaneous perceptions - they are energies that we have given some meaning to, that seem to be about attack and the need to do something? 

Could you just sit back for a moment and just breathe and get in touch with your current surroundings?

Could you actually be here in the movie of life or the sea of life and can you be more objective about watching the elements in this movie or in this whirlpool that is spinning in the ocean?

Can you allow yourself to breathe and be the presence that can  witness this, and can you relax more into that presence and out of this perception or perhaps misperception that there is actually something to be afraid of?

And could you rest more in the presence and that ability to observe things as instantaneous feelings and not personal things that we have to get involved in and be identified with? 

Could you just be?

Love, Karyn

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One of the most difficult feelings that we deal with is the feeling of shame and embarrassment - there seems to be a great deal of fear and contraction around being able to feel that more freely.

We tend to over-identify with that feeling and we get it stuck deep down as though it is really us and then whenever we seeing anything out there our mental associations present an immediate threat to us in case we might feel shame in that situation or embarrassment. So anytime we have done something, such as perhaps we didn't call somebody when we said we would or maybe we said something nasty and we really didn't mean to, immediately we feel these uncomfortable feelings that are actually residing inside and we keep building them up and never just feel them and let them go! And, because they are constantly present, it is really difficult to live a life that feels free and deserving and we don't understand why it never goes well!  It is because this undeserving, shameful, embarrassing, core feeling seems to always be there at some unconscious and deeper level.

Because these are such uncomfortable feelings and so over-identified with as though it is really me, unfortunately, one of the things we do in life is go to addiction to try and get rid of them. So you might want to take a look at whether or not you are more likely to be out drinking or participating in drugs or some addiction; when things have happened in such a way that you don't feel connected and that things have gone well with somebody.  When you feel a tinge of not feeling good about yourself, feeling somehow rejected by someone or not really liked by them, and somehow you are picking up these signals that something isn't quite right in the relationship, and that will stir up this shame and this guilt and will often be a trigger to go out and have 'fun' with drinking and drugs, etc., and we try to move away from these feelings that seem more impossible to deal with (through drinking or drugs).

So, just for a moment, although it is not necessary that you actually get right into that feeling of shame and guilt in this moment, you might want to open to the possibility that there is a clenching even as we talk about this. That there is a clenching and tightness; maybe tightness in the throat, to just in this moment realize this is all human reaction to feelings. Could you just allow that for a moment, could you allow whatever reaction has stirred up in this message? Could you slow down and just get in touch with the energy that is there, because you don't need to run away from it, and you don't need to manage it. Just breathe and be here and realize these things actually will go if you can loosen some of the contraction and just relax. Be more like that Buddha image. Just feel that opening, you don't need to struggle with this. Could you just welcome those feelings and let them go!

And you can try this any time you want to - anytime it seems to occur to you at all. Just check a little bit more and see if there is something deeper behind what you are about to do in order to have 'fun'. What if you let go of anything that's going on deep down inside in a more natural way, and then you can just go out and have fun and don't need to be covering anything up or running away. Much more free, free from this battle with feelings that aren't really who you are anyway! Love, Karyn

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