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Controlling Parents!

Here is another example of how we can feel bathed by energy that we were raised in - this is a really common one that I have been noticing in a lot of people.  If you are raisedin a family where there has been a lot of controlling, where your parents are quite controlling and one or the other of them is always demanding and having strict rules, that could be a religious upbringing, or any number of things, but just constantly feeling controlled like there's really a lot of definition of what's right, what's wrong, what's expected. And people grow up really feeling controlled! 

That really are all these things that you have to be on the lookout for and that you've got to be doing and that you actually have to guide yourself with. So you grow up actually with an energy that is quite familiar where you feel controlled.  You are told what to do so you don't have to think, so it's not as though you are that spontaneous or eager to think outside the box.  When we grow up we often find ourselves in a situation where we are very busy all the time, we're very busy achievers. We are running around with this to do and that to do; we could be sitting still just thinking "I have to do this, I have to do that", and you make up lists and you have all these things that put a structure around you so that it again feels just like it did growing up - that so many things are controlling you. There are so many things that you have to do or attend to. 

So if you feel that way, could you welcome that?

Could you welcome that sense of how busy you are and how important things are and how much you have to do - which kind of feels like "I want to control"?

Just welcome how many things you feel responsible for that you have to control.  And then can you welcome how in fact things are just things and  they may or may not be that important, but just check to see how familiar those childhood patterns of feeling controlled might be. 

Karyn Klapecki, M.D. FCFP, CGPP, Founder of Inspired Pathways, International, licensed Sedona Method® Instructor and psychotherapist.

Please join the YouTube Channel 'Inspired Sedona Method' and learn to allow and let go or release unproductive and unwanted feelings that are holding you back from the freedom that you are. Also join me on Facebook 'Inspired Pathways'. If you are interested my seminars, intensives and courses, please visit this webstire for up to date information.If you would like to enquire about in-office, one-on-one psychotherapy or private coaching via Skype, please send an email me directly. karyn@inspiredpathways.com. CONFIDENTIALITY IS RESPECTED.

 
All blog postings are designed to disseminate a wide spectrum of views on educational topics such as alternative healing therapies, medicine, psychiatry, psychotherapy, humanities, lifestyle and nutrition. The views or opinions expressed on Inspired Pathways Blog pages do not necessarily represent the views or opinions of Karyn Klapecki or Inspired Pathways.  - Karyn Klapecki, M.D.
Posted: December 7, 2012 at 11:48 AM
By: inpathways
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How Goals Can Manifest

This story helps to put into focus how goals can manifest, if you believe and know them to be true.

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:
 
'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?' The audience was stilled by the query.
 
The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.' Then he told the following story:

‘Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his limitations.
 

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'
 
Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.
 
In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?
 
Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!' Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball. He was the smallest guy on their team, who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home. All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay.' Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay! Run to third!' As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.
 
'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'. Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!’

THOUGHTS

What we call ‘miracles’, as described above when we perceive ‘remarkable’ outcomes, is ‘normal’ in the energy of ‘one’. For Shay, by simply not holding limitations and instead just doing what he does in the moment, similar to Forrest Gump, he participates in the world as it unfolds with perfection. It doesn’t even occur to him that he is making it happen – it just happens; with NO thought. Likewise, there are no thoughts of ‘can’t’ or visions of what has to happen first in order to achieve a certain outcome.

Yet all of those observing his experience, or listening to this story, often assign a conscious role to each baseball player involved, as if they were responsible for making that a great day for Shay. We give meaning, after the fact, to what we ‘think’ just happened. It is a habit of mind, which assigns importance to ‘our’ roles – and entices us with the idea of how to be ‘good’ and generous. The ego loves to tell spiritually prideful stories too! It’s an ironic ‘twist’ or ‘joke’ to step back and realize, each of us does exactly what we do in a perfect harmony - and that we do not control any of it – the joke is on us. Being like Shay or Forrest simply frees every moment up to be just as it is – perfect.

In order to live your goals, it is necessary to be open and free to the moment – with no thought of ‘how’ or holdback of ‘what is necessary’. The universe will send in every person and situation to allow the unfolding (even though many of those people ‘sent in’ may want to take credit, after the fact, about their role in your creating happiness)!

Have a Shay Day every day, and allow it to be easier to BE - let go of those limitations and complicated thoughts and ideas about self as best you can!  Luv, Karyn  xox

 
All blog postings are designed to disseminate a wide spectrum of views on educational topics such as alternative healing therapies, medicine, psychiatry, psychotherapy, humanities, lifestyle and nutrition. The views or opinions expressed on Inspired Pathways Blog pages do not necessarily represent the views or opinions of Karyn Klapecki or Inspired Pathways.  - Karyn Klapecki, M.D.
Posted: November 5, 2012 at 11:11 AM
By: inpathways
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Aloha and Mahalo! An Effortless Creation Gain

Aloha!  Today, I arrived in good old Zurich. Although it was a 24-hour journey from Hawaii, it was quite effortless.  (As it should be, after attending an Effortless Creation Intensive Seminar!)

Just wanted to thank all of you for this amazing week in Hawaii! It was such a good week and I feel very grateful for this gift!  Thank you Karyn for making it possible and thanks to everyone who was a part of it!!

A beautiful effortless creation happened for me on Sunday, April 1.  A couple of us wanted to see the north of the island. So, we had to rent a car (we thought). I did not feel completely comfortable with that idea of renting a car though, for various reasons. But if we wanted to get to see some nice places, we had to rent one, of course.

So we did. Or at least, we tried. One person made the calls. But it didn’t work out well. So, we walked to one of the local tourist agencies. And there, after some talking, all of the sudden, the advisor asked us something like: “Why not renting a car WITH a driver?”

That was unexpected. My mind needed a couple of seconds to catch up with this new idea, but then I thought: “How perfect!”

No one needed to drive, no searching around where the nicest places are, no figuring out, how to pick up the car and to bring it back later… All was taken care of without us doing anything.

And it turned out to be even better than that. Our driver was a very funny guy, so we had to laugh a lot on our ride through the north of the island. And he took lot’s of pictures for us, managing all three of our cameras…)

(And we found at the end of the trip even a solution for whom we could give the rest of the food we wouldn’t need…)

It’s a bit hard to describe in a few words here, but it was just such a beautiful unfolding, an effortless creation: It started with us having and intention. Our minds made a suggestion (rent a car). Then life jumped in and orchestrated a much better solution. Then, we allowed it to happen, we sad yes to it. (That’s an important point, I think... We could have gone the other way, we could have interfered with the flow: "Oh it costs a bit more, we have planded something else...")

But fortunately, we allowed the flow...And the result was beyond my best expectations!

But it was even better than that. We had planned to do our trip on Sunday. But because of not getting a car on Sunday, it was not possible. And that was perfect. Perfectly orchestrated as well. On Sunday, sadness did arise in “my” consciousness. Like waves of energy. Wave after wave. And because there was all of the sudden no trip on Sunday, I had time, time to just focus on allowing all the feelings to come up. And to welcome any wanting to change it, wanting control. And to welcome how very personal it felt…

I was simply walking up and down on the shore of Kona village and doing releasing.

And then, as I woke up the next day, I felt peaceful and ready for an adventurous trip to the north…

It was amazing to see the flow, the perfection… simply unfolding on it’s own.

I wish you all the best!

Warm regards,

M. from Switerland

Posted: April 9, 2012 at 04:15 PM
By: inpathways
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Experiencing the Death of a Friend

The Experience of the Death of a Friend

If you have recently experienced the death of a close friend or relative it can be a very traumatic experience. You have lost a close confidant and also you may be reminded of your own mortality. Depending on the circumstances, if the death was sudden you may also be feeling shock and disbelief, or you may even feel guilty that your friend has died while you're still living. All these reactions are natural, personal and the emotions can be observed. Simply give yourself permission to have the emotions without trying to figure it all out! 

 

 

You may most assuredly expect to enter into the five stages of grief:

1.  Disbelief

2.  Yearning

3.  Anger

4.  Depression

5.  Acceptance

However, at any stage of your grieving process, you can use The Sedona Method to help you let go of the pain you are feeling.
 
When you feel you are ready to let go, use any of the basic tools of the Sedona method and you may find you can genuinely skip or compress the stages of grief.

How to Use The Sedona Method to Let Go of Grief

Whenever you find yourself yearning for your lost friend, wishing you could change the situation or worrying about your own mortality, ask yourself one of these questions:

• Could I let this feeling go?
• Could I allow this feeling to be here?
• Could I welcome this feeling?

Your answer may be either yes or no, it doesn’t particularly matter. But once you have answered, ask yourself:

• Would I let it go?

The purpose of this is to determine if you are willing to let the feeling go. Do not debate whether or not you should let it go, simply remember that you are doing this process for yourself -- for the purpose of gaining your own freedom and clarity. But whether your answer is ultimately yes or no, move on to question #3.

• When?

This is an invitation to just let the negative feeling go NOW.

Repeat these three questions as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

Release not only on missing the person but also on the feelings it brings up about your apparent mortality.  Every body does die, however what you are is birthless, deathless and ever present.

Finally, when you are able to move past your grief, you will find that you are able to feel closer to your friend.

The grief you may be feeling does not tie you to your lost friend. Once you are ready, letting go of the grief will actually help you to feel closer to them and open your heart to an even deeper love for them and a oneness with all. Love, Karyn

Posted: March 9, 2012 at 04:09 PM
By: inpathways
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Social Phobia

Have you ever had a problem with social phobia?  That is that anxiety that occurs when we are in certain circumstances with other people. Some people feel that when they are with strangers that certain things might happen; they suddenly might look stupid or be rejected by the crowd or people might talk about them or they just don’t know how to fit in, or they won’t be liked?  All kinds of thoughts occur, but really what’s going on underneath all that is a sense of self judgment – a lot of judging and anticipating humiliation and disapproval.  That can be a very traumatic, repeating phobia where the anxiety comes up and the only thing I want to do is try to get away – I want to take  “flight” , fear is there.  I don’t want to go there or stay very quiet in the background, I want to suppress and get away from anything that might make that anxiety worse.
 
So I wonder if in this moment you can allow yourself to explore that sense of trauma that tends to repeat at a certain level of our brain where we actually feel really at risk and so insecure about “something is going to happen to humiliate me” or to “embarrass me”, or “I’m going to look so bad in front of all these people I don’t know.”  “I just want to run for safety”, “I want to go to a safe place” and “I just want to run for safety, a safe place, run home”, or something like that – AVOID.
 
Can you welcome that just for a moment, can you welcome that feeling that sometimes generates when you're just really afraid of other people or situations where there are other people. Can you allow that?  Can you just breathe and get engaged here with your higher cortical center, your sense of presence, or beingness, here now, can you breathe deeply  through your feet and up through your head,  slowly, slowly breathe and see the room around you, hear the sounds, be present because that’s what the cortex is about, being present. It’s about being present to these feelings that are really just feelings. These are just feelings from certain old, old childhood traumas.  You need to be able to feel that with compassion and allowing as opposed to judging it and running away from it and being afraid of it, and thinking it is the end of the world, and getting a very busy mind trying to manage it.

Just for now could you let go of needing to figure any part of it out because it is an old, old traumatic feeling? Could you just allow it to be what you used to feel in your youth or in your childhood?  Could you allow it right now to simply be something that’s really a memory of feelings – it’s a memory episode that you don’t need to change, you just need to soothe and allow?  You need to be kind to it.  Could you allow it?  Could you let it go?  Would you let it go?  And when?
 
It is not about pushing away the feelings or about not liking anything, although you might feel that.  It’s about learning how to really be here like you would with a little child, soothing, just being kind, there are no answers to be had, as it is just a case of loving kindness in this moment, patience and simply allowing these things to be what they are – old episodes and memories of feelings, the tolerance of it, the kindness, the patience, the remaining in the cortex, present,  for this old experience so that you can discern more clearly who you really are right here, right now. And these older  feelings are not who you are - they are just memories and old experiences and they are gone, you are fine and you lived through them all.  Could you let go of struggling with those olds feelings of fear, embarrassment, and shame?  Could you have the tolerance to just allow how phobic those feelings can get – how avoidant they can get? Could you welcome the stress and the strain of all that and just breathe and be patient with it as best you can?

If you do that consistently and you just hang with those feelings and let them be, you are going to find yourself much more in control here now, the person you really are and you will be able to be yourself and have a lot more ease in life - not avoiding, participating in joyful events and it is your birthright to be that!  Love, Karyn

I invite you to join my YouTube Channel “Inspired Sedona Method”, where you can follow this release on video with me! 

Posted: November 28, 2011 at 09:56 PM
By: inpathways
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