People tend to have nightmares and get really anxious, and they have a whole theme going on in recurrent dreams. But we really have the same experience happening in the day time too! It is really about how we become so afraid and we immediately start 'thinking' about what we have to do and are in a pride/fear loop so quickly. Our ‘doing’ something about the fear is really our resistance, or our reaction, to other feelings. Our fear has become the fear of feelings coming up.
Anxiety is really just a way that heralds or warns you that other feelings are coming! And as we already know, feelings are not YOU and it's OK if they come. But that fear of the feeling is really what gets us going in the wrong direction - we feel tight, we feel contracted, we jump on the feeling, and then we are in the head trying to figuring things out and we are looking for a way out and a way to not feel that feeling. And that becomes that sense of a "me".
So I wonder if, in this moment, you can pick something that usually stimulates you to feel anxiety or anxious? Can you notice there is a fear of something; a fear that you might be on the verge of feeling something about lack of approval or lack of security and you are actually afraid that's going to happen? See if you can welcome that - see if you can welcome there is a fear that is warning you that you are in the danger of having some lacking occurring! And just allow yourself to step back and open to that for a moment - to be here now and to recognize that wow, everything is fine and that this fear is simply heralding a feeling. Can you welcome it?
Can you welcome the fear and not try to figure anything out or try to do anything about it and can you welcome the feeling? Just feel it. Instead of moving away from it or pushing it away, can you welcome that wanting or lacking or whatever that appears to be?
Can you just feel it as a feeling and open up and just allow it?
Can you take a moment to just allow this whole thing to settle down?
So basically we are looking at:
- Recognizing fear or anxiety perhaps as a friend, not an enemy!
- Welcoming it because it is telling you there is something coming up from your own conscious; such as feelings of lack about yourself or your life. And those are just feelings - they are not who you are!
- So the anxiety is helping you to take a look. If you STOP, allow that and just experience what that is - you can let that go, so you are clearing out your unconscious (and the unwanted thoughts in that moment)!
Hopefully you can allow fear and anxiety to become a little more of a ‘friendly’ tool for you, as opposed to an enemy that makes you want to quickly do something to run away from your impending threat. Practice being here now and just check to see how your sleep will improve!
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