When you ask yourself these questions, stop each time and simply feel and reflect. Accept what you become aware of rather than analyze or judge. There is nothing to change, nothing to do and no where to go, in order for you to be. Simply notice in acceptance.
Is my personal reality loving? Do you expect compromises and limitations? Can you express kindness, appreciation, affection with ease? Do you practice tolerance and forgiveness? Do you expect the positive... that things will go well?
The underlying emotions and beliefs to your answers, point to what can be recognized and mindfully released so that you can freely feel your loving and kind nature.