In follow up to our release on being at the "End of The Rope" (Part 1); feeling so frustrated with all the trying and "efforting" that we put into things, I'd like us to go a little deeper and explore what the real underpinning is of all of that push to try to be in control of things.

So in this moment can you allow yourself to just feel how much you just want to 'effort;, in fact it happens a lot, all day long. There is such well-intended efforting (sometimes it's not so well-intended and we're angry with our efforting and talking in our minds), but just welcome; welcome all of that wanting control, wanting things to go a certain way.  I'm wondering if you can just allow yourself to dive into that feeling, take a breath, breathe through it, be in it and allow it to be a sensation in this moment. Just notice how you are fine, you are still present, everything is good and there is this feeling that you can relax into; dive into.  We just allow that wave and rush of strong intention and effort to be here; to be more observant of it and not being afraid to dive a little deeper into how much we need things to go a certain way. Just welcome it a little more, as best you can.  It doesn't really matter what sparks that feeling - it could be a money issue, a relationship issue, a fear of how things are seeming to go and they could end, and there is a disaster looming - just see if you can get in touch with that, that there is actually a huge resistance happening to what else you're feeling and you're predicting and you are afraid of. 

See if you could come a little deeper into that feeling, that fear!  Let's just explore that a little more. Really you are pushing against what you think is happening or might happen in that energy and could you welcome that.  Let's sit back a little more in that sensation because, again, it's just here in this moment and nothing is really happening around you - it's just an experience, with a feeling, that we tend to clench around and we get caught up in all that doing and efforting, let's not clench, let's actually explore the fear, that sensation of just not knowing of how this is going to go -- Uncertainty!  Can you welcome the feeling of uncertainty, can you allow it as a sensation - it's about allowing a sense of not having control and notice how that's about being frightened as a person who is supposed to be doing something - not having control seems like a terrible thing.  But could you also notice that that's a story in this moment and there is nothing really happening.  It's the way fear penetrates into our consciousness and brings us into a sense of a very vulnerable person. Our freedom rests in moving through that vulnerability, recognizing it for what it is - so called facing our fears, which are provoked when we are uncertain, when we can't see what's going to happen or we're really afraid it isn't going to happen the way we want it to happen. And that's OK; that's normal, a normal experience, but we get caught up.  See if you can relax into that whole reaction energy pattern of EFFORT that gets sparked simply by not knowing, by being uncertain, and fear is having us predict the worst and get into action and effort.  Could you relax into all of that, breathe deeply and embrace this very repetitive and human experience?  It's fine.  Can you welcome compassion for all that happens in this energy of fear.  It's here now with compassion; it's simply where we focused and we can also focus on feeling safe in the uncertainty, in the compassion for just what is. Could you allow that even more, the resting with uncertainty, the beginning to trust - opening to just a trusting, non-efforting energy where we really do feel all is well and everything is unfolding as it should!

Karyn Klapecki, M.D. FCFP, CGPP, Founder of Inspired Pathways, International, Licensed Sedona Method® Instructor and Psychotherapist.

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This is a continuation of video 1 - "Operating in Good Faith:  In the Workplace"

Good Faith in the Home

The same person I was speaking about in part 1 who was so easily to operate in good faith in his workplace, it is a different story in the home environment. Whenever this fellow came into his home environment, rather than really operating in good faith with his spouse, he was often very attached of the position of his two children. He came from a background where he was emotionally and sometimes physically abused as a child.  So he over identified with his children whenever his spouse got mad at them and really was disciplining and he would try to intervene with a loving approach in an attempt to make the children feel loved and not so wounded which, of course, was incredibly conflicting for the kids - they have one parent disciplining and one parent distracting them with loving  messages. That was not an example of operating in good faith with your spouse. The contract we have in a family is first and foremost with the person that you married that you want to be understanding of what's going on for them, you want to have their back, you want to be there with them and for them and he was really creating a divisiveness by being there for the children and kind of negating what she was saying.  Now she, on the other hand, was a bit over the top also, and that was another family issue from her upbringing, so sometimes her disciplining was totally over the top and it was all about her issues as well. Quite frequently this scenario would seem like 'four' children in the room, instead of two parents and two children. Everybody was launched in their past issues overcompensating for what they were feeling and the children were totally mixed up.  And, isn't that a common scenario for our upbringing. 

To operate in good faith you really have to be able to recognize what you are doing; you have to be able to feel your feelings and all of the urges that draw you into reaction patterns - you have to be able to recognize your reacting. When you actually look at your history and you review what's was going on in your life, you will be able to see those patterns quite well, so he was able to get in touch with that feeling of identifying with the 'victim' and he needed to release his own feelings from his own family scenarios when he was feeling victimized.

Letting go of feeling the unfairness; letting go of feeling controlled and trapped and not heard - all these very vulnerable feelings when we are not respected as children. 

Once he let that go, he could then have a different approach to supporting his wife. For example, he could take her aside into another room when she was really over the top and really be able to empathize with her. Empathy and operating in good faith comes from really being grounded and centered and not in our emotional reactive polarities. So, if he is loving and caring about why she is so upset, he can take her politely into another room and say, "I'm confused, I don't know why you are so upset, what's going on?  Let's talk about it just for a minute."  And they could process that and she could get to a place where she could move beyond her reactive issue and they could both then enter as a united front as parents who have to be able to tell the truth to children about what is and what isn't acceptable. Children have to learn to operate in good faith - that's the whole job of parenting is to be able to look at the whole situation and be respectful of other people and what they need and what they are saying; to care about the fact that the mother was really upset about a certain behaviour pattern; to be interested enough in it and to be able to link in some self-discipline in order to look at the whole situation and come to terms with operating in good faith within a family.

So, can you just look at the empathetic, heartfelt, truthfulness that will always set you free.  Have the courage to say what you have to say, whether it is with a spouse who is over the top, find your heart and do what you need to do. It could be children who are not listening, find your heart and say what you need to say and get them to think about it.

Operate in good faith with the truth, courageousness and just being in that balanced position and not worrying about what's going to happen to "me" if I say these things - just letting that go.  Karyn

Karyn Klapecki, M.D. FCFP, CGPP, Founder of Inspired Pathways, International, Licensed Sedona Method® Instructor and Psychotherapist.

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Good Faith in the Workplace

I have a client who really demonstrates what it is like to operate his business in good faith - to come from your heart, to be in empathy and to be brave enough to just simply be in the truth of situations from moment to moment.

He is able to do that in his workplace. What happened is his company was going to be bought out and he had to deal in a senior position with some of the customers and one of the customers, a CEO, approached him and said, "Doesn't it mean that when you are bought out by this company that you are going to go directly to our clients and sell to them in competition with us?" And he said, very naturally,"Well, yes, we will be doing that. What else could we do given the scenario?" The CEO replied,"Well, thank you for your honesty!" That took him aback, he didn't expect such an answer, but he wasn't in fear when he gave that answer, it just was totally natural for him to speak the truth and he was well respected for that. As it turned out, the other company that was trying to buy out his company went bankrupt nd the deal didn't go! And, so none of that had to take place, where he would have to be in competition with his current client and, not only that, but these clients stuck with him, respected him and wanted to work with him.

So,this story is really a very beautiful example of just simply operating in the best faith -  the best you can be, and it does mean telling the truth and trusting that truth - trusting that will set the whole situation free.

Please watch for Operating in Good Faith:  In the Home!   Love, Karyn

Karyn Klapecki, M.D. FCFP, CGPP, Founder of Inspired Pathways, International, Licensed Sedona Method® Instructor and Psychotherapist.

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I want to bring forward an important holdback that when released could really make a difference as to how your life is unfolding and, if you are willing to work with this, I think you will see amazing results.  It's nothing really new.  If you look at people who really have been successful in their lives and things move forward rather easily, then seem to believe they gain as much from what we might call mistakes or failures as they do from their successes or achievements.

Openess and Freedom

When we look at that from the point of view of releasing, a client comes to mind as an example, who is really hanging on to the idea of how she normally works in her life in order to create stability and have money but has this tremendous passion to move on and has always had the passion to move on in a career that is far more creative, more in the acting field for example, and has never really been able to feel completely open and free.  In working with the feelings with respect to openness and freedom, there is a lot of doubt that comes up when you are faced with an new opportunity or opportunities in a direction that has not yet unfolded and you haven't seen the results yet and you don't know where it is going. It brings up a all of these feelings of doubt and lack of trust and for many people it is this old association that the negative can have when we have such a terrible idea about mistakes and failure. We become paralyzed and can't move forward, not wanting that to happen. We feel that impending doom and that doubt in that not knowing and then we can't move forward in our paralyzed state, not wanting that to happen.

And so that 's the exact opposite for those who are successful and move forward. They don't feel that that negative or failure is a mistake at all; it's a learning experience with much more open energy, with much more acceptance, and the learning and the feeling of more success can easily occur.

It is JUST A Feeling

Let's take a moment to open to that feeling that you might be struggling with; that feeling of doubt and not knowing. When you have something you would like to follow either in a career or relationship, can you welcome anything that is coming to your mind right now about movement forward, when you just don't know how it is going to go, when it feels like it is risky - you are just not sure, there is no guarantee and you can't see the pathway.

Can you welcome that feeling for a moment and even though a lot of thoughts, pictures and sensations are coming, allow yourself to be grounded right here as that arises. We are right here in this moment and what is really happening is an explosion of energy.  And see if you can allow yourself to really remain grounded here as you allow this feeling to come up. Can you welcome any doubt, overwhelm, or uncertainty or a sense of lack of security which may be arising right here right now in a moment that is completely fine and secure? We have invited this energy and so stay grounded here while you welcome that feeling. It is JUST a feeling; it's an experience. This is what it feels like when you are really anxious and not knowing and when you think you need to know, and you need a guarantee, you need to know the path so you won't make a mistake. Feel the heaviness, the fear. For some of you may be feeling a lot of apathy maybe even a lot of grief over past disappointment - anything can arise here.

Let it all come, let it breathe, give it space, just be patient doing nothing about it but watching. Let go of this pull to do something, to shut it away, or to find an answer.

See if you can just welcome what is there, and as you do, as you learn patience, presence, with these feelings, you will find that they will dissolve, they will move through and they will dissipate.  And could you let them go?  Could you let go of having this particular feeling for the rest of the day?  And could you anchor more in just being present. Would you let that go?  And when?

Just check again. See if you can welcome anything else that is left about this whole issue of moving forward in life but not being able to move forward because you can't see where to go or what the direction is and you want to feel more reassured about what you are doing - that paralyzed position. 

Doubt, Uncertainty, Fear of Mistake

Go a little deeper and see if there is that feeling of doubt, uncertainty, fear of mistake, as if you could actually make a mistake, rather than just learn from the next thing. Feel that. Allow it to be that way. This is how it was and this is what you learned growing up and it is here now as an experience for you to simply be present to as you are here now and you are not this incapable or scared grouping of energies or childlike lessons that you had. Just welcome them again, more objectively. They are just feelings, thoughts, ideas and there is nothing to do about them, you don't need to change them. It is just seeing what you can feel like if you believe all that and how it can hold you back if you believe it, to be more important than just a grouping of energies and feelings.

Emotions are ENERGY IN MOTION so let them have motion!  Move back, step back, breathe and give them the room to move and they will, slowly but surely dissolve.  Karyn

Karyn Klapecki, M.D. FCFP, CGPP, Founder of Inspired Pathways, International, Licensed Sedona Method® Instructor and Psychotherapist.

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In my psychotherapy practice I see the exponential growth in self-awareness, as I have been graced by having the opportunity to assist others to achieve greater levels of well-being. Freedom from old, emotionally-driven patterns of disruptive and sabotaging behaviors has resulted.  With my current experiences as a facilitator, coach and psychotherapist, along with the synthesis of all the career skills I had gained, including the ‘power’ tools for emotional releasing, I would like to offer to you a clarity of the balanced energy of Being  through the Inspired Pathways seminars. The techniques I use are the ‘how to’ steps for successful attainment of true peace and clarity that many speak of in the popular literature. Focusing on a series of simple and easy to learn techniques result in the releasing of emotions, leaving you calm, present and effective in dealing with daily life. Inevitably, the result is more awareness in the present or now moment and with less reactivity caused from the unconscious conditioned past.

What Can You Expect?

This dynamic Inspired Pathways Sedona Method® course will show you how to best use  life-changing tools to transform ‘yourself’ and your perceptions of others, as well as how to incorporate the various releasing processes harmoniously into the practices, procedures and techniques you may already be using. Advanced releasing techniques, the 5th Way and Triple-Welcoming process, will be applied so that this course will facilitate a deeper realization of the peaceful core of your Being.  You will come away with a deeper, living understanding of the presence of awareness that you are, and be more effective in accepting the flow in life.

• Move ahead in all areas of your life
• Accomplish more with less effort
• Allow life’s natural flow to support you in having what you want
• Accelerate your releasing to rest more in presence

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• 5-day accommodation, Gourmet Meals, Hot Spa Tub, Hiking through Forest, Sunset Boat Excursions, Evening Fire Pit Releasing, Beach, and Sedona Method® course fee. This course is intimate and registration is limited. It is an exciting & fun summer event with country surroundings.  Experience the serenity and gorgeous sunsets!

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